I’m going through a purging phase; a good and thorough cleansing of both my house and my head. Two things have been really bothering me lately: The first is how much stuff we have in our home that never gets touched. The second, is how much time we spend on social media and our phones.
A recently finished the book The Life Changing Magic of Tiding Up and it was a bit of a wake up call. You may think you’re not a hoarder, or that you don’t have many clothes, but this book will change your mind! It presents a very simple concept, but if you actually make the changes it suggests you’ll be blown away!
If you want a simple summary of the book, check out this blogs recap. The main idea is that you only hold onto things that bring you joy. If you don’t love wearing that clothing item, get rid of it. If you aren’t going to read that book again in the next couple months, get rid of it. Haven’t watched that DVD in a year? Get rid of it. No exceptions – it’s time to clear out the clutter.
So how does using social media and buying things connect? We get dopamine hits from both of them. Our brains are telling us buying things makes us happy, even though many of those items will eventually end up in the trash. Same goes for posting things on Facebook or Instagram. We post that article or photo and wait for the LIKES to roll in, because it makes us feel good. It makes us feel valued. We’re totally addicted to that feeling.
Personally, I’m scaling things back. I’ve deleted all social media apps off of my phone (except Instagram, because that’s not desktop friendly.) This stops me from aimlessly scrolling. I’m leaving my phone behind whenever possible. It does not need to travel with me from room to room. Basically, I’m using it more like a phone! Going online now has to be more purposefully, since it’s all done on my desktop.
I’m now being way more conscience about what I purchase! Everything must have a purpose if it’s going to take up space in our home. It’s why we’ve now cut gifts from our children’s birthday parties. If someone really wants to give something to our child, they can bring a $5 bill to put towards one item of their choosing. It gives our kids a better appreciation for money and costs way less to those attending!
I’m so sick of stuff, guys. I just want things more simple. Stuff doesn’t make me happy. Time with my family and friends makes me happy. My animals make me happy. Sitting on my deck with a coffee enjoying my view makes me happy. Making memories and having experiences makes me happy. I’d much prefer to invest my time and money into those things.
Take a second and look around your home and your closet. Are you over run with stuff you never use? Try putting your phone down in another room and see how long you can go without using it. I’ll bet you’ll be surprised.