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Why I’m More Confident in My Postpartum Body

I’m more confident in my postpartum body!

I know what you are thinking… “What!? This woman likes her body more now that she did before children!? You’ve gotta be kidding me…”
But it’s actually true.

I have never considered myself a thin person. I have an hour glass shape with many a curve. And I’ve never been the kind of girl who enjoys working out or avoiding all the pleasures junk food can bring.

When I was a teenager I hated my body. Curves weren’t in and I wished I didn’t have hips (though I was perfectly happy with my upper half.) I tried to force my body into styles and fashions that didn’t fit my body type whatsoever and I cringe now when looking back at the photos. My mother assures me she tried to talk me out of many an outfit, but of course I was way too stubborn to take advice from her. Oh how I wish I had!

So what’s changed?

Why I'm More Confident in My Postpartum Body

 

My hips are wider. My waist is thicker. I have stretch marks and scars in various places. My tummy is no longer tight. Never again will you see me prancing around in a bikini. I have a few grey hairs on my head and brown spots on my face. My teeth aren’t shimmery white, my cheeks don’t always have that natural pinky glow and I am starting to get wrinkles. Hmm, that doesn’t sound like a whole lot of positives now does it!

But that’s not all that’s changed.

I have a husband who loves me for who I am no matter what I look like on a particular day. I can dress up and I can dress down and he still accepts me for who I am. He didn’t marry me for how well I could apply makeup or how toned by abs were. He loves the person behind all that and that gives me confidence.

I have grown and given birth to three beautiful little children. They are fully responsible for changing my physical appearance and yet I’m willing to do it all over again to bring another life into this world. My kids certainly don’t care if mommy’s hair is straight, curly or in a pony tail. And I’m sure they’d much rather I wear a comfortable pair of pants or bathing suit so that I am better able to play with them. That gives me confidence.

I accept my body for what it is. I have learned what kind of cuts flatter or don’t flatter my body type and I follow those rules. It doesn’t matter if I think the style is adorable or if it’s on sale. If it doesn’t work for me I won’t embrace it. The same goes for colours that I wear. I know what washes me out and what brightens me up, and I try to stick with the latter. That gives me confidence.

Why I'm More Confident in My Postpartum Body

I am aware of what foods keeps me healthy and at a reasonable weight. I’m more conscience about what I put into my body and how it makes me feel. I lost my gallbladder after suffering from horrible attacks during my first pregnancy and it totally changed the way I think about consuming food. Before my surgery, I had to completely cut fat out of my diet for weeks because it literally was creating scar tissue in my body. It was a rude awakening! I am now able to eat fat again post surgery, but I will feel sick of I go overboard and it’s a good instant reminder. Besides, I notice when I make healthy choices I just feel better in general. That gives me confidence.

And last but certainly not least, I have confidence in my decisions. Being a wife, a mother and a Christian has given me a sense of confidence I never could have imagined. I am totally 100 percent confident in the decisions we make as a family and I honestly don’t care if someone disagrees with me. I am open to hearing others opinions and ideas, but I do not let them sway me in the slightest. Do you know how liberating that is? It’s a pretty great feeling.

Why I'm More Confident in My Postpartum Body

 

That’s why I am more confident in my postpartum body. I know where I’ve been and where I am going in the future. Come what may, scars and all.

 

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  • Lindsay

    I am right there with you, and it is so wonderful to see other women pleased with their bodies, even if they don’t look “perfect” according to society’s standards. Our bodies gave and sustained life. Stretchmarks are a reminder of the children we brought to this world.

    My body isn’t tight now, nor super tiny. I sometimes look at photos of myself from years ago and long for the young, fit body. But then I remind myself that I’ve given birth to 3 babies and this body has done so much for me. There is nothing to be ashamed of, love handles and all.

  • Stephanie

    Good for you! I am struggling with the ever-changing pregnancy body. It took me a long time to get on friendly terms with my body before and some days it’s just reeeeally hard to feel confident. But I think everyone goes through that sometimes. Maybe it’s part of that whole “every day I see the scale going up” thing and it’s hard to overcome the part of me that wants to freak out over all that weight, which is way louder than the part of me that knows I need to be gaining that weight for the baby. However, I am happy to say that I saw my first stretch marks this morning and I kind of went “all right, I can dig this” because I’ve always kind of regarded stretch marks like “tiger stripes” that have to be earned. Just hoping I’ll be able to cope with all the additional changes that will come my way once this baby is on the outside of me. 🙂

  • Salma

    Really enjoyed reading your post and glad you are happy with your body after baby. I’m working on a similar post for my blog and it’s nice to read that others feel the same way.

  • Lisa C

    Good post! Very timely for me. 🙂

    I found I gained a lot of confidence in my body image just as I got older. I was feeling pretty good before I had kids, since I was 35 before my first was born. Now I struggle with a combination of facing the aging that comes with being near forty AND having jiggly postpartum belly.

    That said, pregnancy & birth definitely gave me a newfound respect for this body, shifting my mind to what it can do, rather than so much on how it looks. 🙂

  • Raj Thandhi (@pinkchai)

    Beautiful post! I used to be very self-concious of my stretch marks and then I read somewhere that they are badges of honour and I just loved it! I earned those stretch marks (and some cellulite) from creating and breathing life into two little people, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.

    PS: on the note of white hair – I dye my roots once a month and have almost 60% grey coming out of my head! So you are doing just awesome in that department:)

  • anatomommy

    I am feeling you! I was 21 when I got pregnant and my body changed a whole lot. I tried so many diets for some time but realized that never did my husband changed his looks full of love to me. He kisses and proudly hugs me publicly and that gives me confidence. I gave birth to a beautiful daughter and I couldn’t agree more when people say that all my beauty went straight to her when I gave birth! 😉

  • sharilyn

    I agree- I like my body better now than pre-baby. I’m not sure if its just because I have no time to worry about things like stretch marks or if as I age I am becoming more comfortable in my own skin

  • mitzi

    beautiful post! i think im still growing to love my post partum body…it’ll always be a self battle regardless of what anyone says about how I “haven’t changed.” ah well, the right clothes, the right fit aka retail therapy works wonders.

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